“Inside Out: Part 3-DIGGING BROKEN WELLS|Chapter 8- THE PROBLEM OF DEMANDINGNESS” by Dr. Larry Crabb

Change from the inside out requires that take a disturbing look at the ugly parts of our soul. In the minds of many, that look means nothing more than confessing a tendency toward impatience or a sometimes critical spirit. Most Christians rather easily acknowledge there’s more to their sinfulness than specific behaviors that violate clear standards. Of course, we battle with “deeper” issues, selfish motives, and the like. But the matter is sometimes left there, at a level of non-convicting generality. (pg. 141)

That’s how Dr. Crabb writes the beginning paragraph of chapter 8. If you have a soul that is always concerned with the heavy burden of representing Christ, this bothers you. Yet, along with Christ, this is Dr. Larry Crabb’s assertion, so much so that you change in order to be more like Christ. I try to clothe myself in Christ’s righteousness in order so that I can fulfill 1 Peter 2:21 which says,

For to this, you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you may walk in His steps. (ESV)

On page 143 Dr. Crabb addresses our spirit of demandingness when he says in one of the last paragraphs that

Weighed tightly in our thirsty soul is the ugly disease of a demanding spirit. Change from the inside out requires that we our problem of demandingness and do something about it. The spirit of demandingness must be identified, recognized in all of its ugliness, and abandoned in repentance. Think with me about the problem from three angles: (1) how God views the problem, (2) how the problem develops, and (3) what God does with it. (pg. 143)

He addresses the 3 angles from Scripture, from one of the five books of the law, Numbers, to mostly concentrating on the life of Job. If you are not familiar with the life of Job, let me feebly try to retell his story in a few sentences. God was pleased with the way Job was conducting his life knowing that Job always put God first. Satan goes before God and said the only reason why Job blesses You is because You have made everything good for him, but the moment Job experiences trials in his life, then he will turn from You. So God gives Satan permission to make life extremely difficult for him, except that Satan can’t take his life.

It is during this process that Job loses sons and daughters, his wife isn’t helpful at all because it was her recommendation to curse the Almighty One and die, right down to his closest friends who misunderstood God’s purpose for Job’s suffering.

We are told that Job repented. Of what? Job abandoned his demand for relief, realizing it was uniquely unbecoming to demand anything from God.

How does one repent of a demanding spirit? What does it mean to trust God with our thirst and to abandon our self-protection? Before we examine these questions in Part Four, perhaps a further discussion of what it takes to expose the dirt inside the cup and dish is in order (Matthew 23:26).


Links to the story of Job:

“The Book of Job”-the Bible Project

“The Book of Job Explained”-Inspiring Philosophy

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“I would not proceed to guess what his (Jeff’s) injuries might include. I would remain rational and calm. It was the only way I could keep myself from spiraling out of control. I would trust God had this all under control.”-Jacqui Huxford

Links to YouTube songs:

“Control”-Tenth Avenue North

“God Is In Control”-Covenant Worship

“God Is In Control”-Sandi Patti

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“I had forgotten to put my wedding ring on that morning, and as weird as it sounds, I was insistent that we needed to go back to the house and get it before heading to the hospital.”-Jacki Huxford

Please click on this link:

“This Ring”-(unknown on YouTube)

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

Jacqui Huxford, Jeff’s wife, has an important but different view of things surrounding Jeff’s almost fatalistic car accident. As she faced breaking the news of the car accident to their kids, she didn’t know what to do except for having the Holy Spirit guide her into it just like the Holy Spirit guided Jesus into the temptation.–

“Something inside me told me I needed to have my kids with me. What if the news was bad? What if they needed to say goodbye to their daddy today? I had to bring them bbecause I couldn’t live with the guilt of not having them around me if something went wrong.”-Jacqui Huxford

Click on the links in order to see YouTube music videos about suffering for Christ:

“Strength Of My Life”-Vertical Worship

“I Am Not Alone”-Kari Jobe

“Inside Out: Part 3 Digging Broken Wells| Chapter 7 Looking In All The Wrong Places” by Dr. Larry Crabb

Under A Clearer View of Sin, Dr. Larry Crabb pens,

To more fully grasp our Lord’s teaching we need a clearer understanding of sin, especially the sin that stains our heart. For ease of discussion, divide the problem of sin into two categories: (1) visible acts of transgression against clearly written Biblical standards and (2) subtle violations of our Lord’s command to love. When the second category is poorly understood, people expend all their spiritual energy in carefully defining Biblical standards and working hard to keep them. The usual result is pharisaical righteousness- or guilty frustration. Dealing with the first category of sin will not lead us to change from the inside out. (page 125)

How true! Even in my own life, I can see “more righteous than that person” attitude in my life. Don’t you dare think that “one and done” philosophy that has so much a part of our society. Instead, I let the Holy Spirit work inside of me to route out all the ways I am not like Christ. Let’s go on.

Under Our Styles of Relating, he says,

A person’s style of relating is like a proverbial snowflake-no two are exactly alike. The design reflected in all of them is the underlying motivation of either self-protection or love. … Remember an important principle: When people deny their thirst, they cannot the function of their relational style. But when their thirst is acknowledged and self-protection is unmasked, then trust in Christ can become more profound and repentance complete. … Progress is slow (real progress usually is), but change is real.” (pages 129, 135-6)

As I look over my life, taking a real hard look at it, I can see Chhrist in my life in the things I believe and do (James 2:14-26). However, if you asked me that question while I was going through one of the trials in my life, I don’t think I could say with absolute certainty that I was acting like Christ, putting my belief in Him, first.

If you like please click on this link:

“Inside Out”-Bonray

“Where Is God When It Hurts?” by Philip Yancey (43)

“As we look back on the spec of eternity that was the history of this planet, we will be impressed, not by its importance but by its smallness. From the viewpoint of the Andromeda galaxy, the holistic destruction of our entire solar system would be barely visible-a match flaring faintly in the distance, then imploding in permanent darkness. Yet, for this burnt out match, God sacrificed Himself.”-Philip Yancey

(This will be my last quote from this amazing book. I hope you get it, but first the Holy Bible in whatever version you can understand. 🙏)

Click on links to have fitting YouTube songs:


“So Will I (100 Billion Times)-Hillsong United

“Reckless Love”-Cory Asbury

One Of The Many Meanings We Can Take From John 11:35…

As some of you already know that John 11:35 is the shortest saying in the whole Bible-“Jesus wept.” And it is very easy to miss, and all of humanity is included in this.

We have to look for the “why” in John 11:35. I think we are to busy with maintaining our lives is why we are so caught up. Friends, families, acquaintances, even enemies are enough to keep us busy. Then for some of us, you throw in work and maintaining that mess. You may have additional stressors added to your life as we all do.

If you can indulge me for a minute, then that would be great and of eternal significance. You have to go back to the surrounding sayings that cry out, “Jesus wept.” His friends, Mary and Martha, sent word to Jesus, a miracle worker, that Lazarus, one of His best friends, was dying. Obviously, Jesus and His posse was not anywhere close to the village where Mary, Martha, and Lazarus were staying because “When Jesus heard this, He said, ‘This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it” (11:4). But, Lazarus dies by the time Jesus got to him. In fact, Lazarus physical body had been dead for 4 days, enough for the smell of rotting flesh to overcome anyone.

And so, “Jesus wept” (11:35). Even though He knew what was going to happen, it didn’t stop that salty substance emanating from Jesus’ eyes. I could take many directions from this passage, but I will only take one: if you choose to start a relationship with Jesus Christ and you really take it as a relationship where you get to know Him, then He is a personal God who desires to be shared. Jesus wept over Lazarus which shows that He is personal even though He knows what is going to happen.

The same thing goes for you; Jesus Christ wants to start a relationship with you and keep the relationship growing.
Really think about the words that I am sharing, and then act upon it!

Click on the links provided in order to get YouTube music videos:

“What A Friend We Have In Jesus”-(unknown)

“Friend Of God”-(unknown)

“Forever Friends”-Sandi Patti

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

From the chapter, “This Isn’t Normal,” Jacqui Huxford writes,

“Sometimes when things go wrong, you just need a hug and someone to tell you they love you.”

(How True)

Click on this YouTube video:

“Reckless Love”-Cory Asbury

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

In order to make it real, Jacqui Huxford (his wife) has a chapter called, “This Isn’t Normal.” This is an excerpt from this chapter after she first found out that Jeff had been in a horrible car accident:

“I had never been in a situation like this. What do I do now? Whom do I call? What do I do first? ‘God, help me,’ I asked. I didn’t know, but I did have enough wherewithal to call my neighbor who had been tending her own garage sale that morning and ask her to come over immediately. I had no idea what I needed her to do; I just needed someone there to make sure I was making sane choices and to help if needed.”-Jacqui Huxford

Links to YouTube music videos:

“Need You Now”-Plumb

“Heal My Broken Heart”-Patty Felker

“Inside Out: PART 2-We Are Thirsty People|Chp. 6- BECOMING AWARE OF OUR THIRST” by Dr. Larry Crabb

On page 97, Dr. Larry Crabb opens this chapter up by stating for us the truth that we don’t feel like admitting to ourselves:

Most of us cope with life by pretending. We pretend that what we have satisfies more than it does. And we pretend we haven’t been hurt as badly as we have. The Biblical instruction not to complain is more easily obeyed when we refuse to face what is disappointing and painful in our life. And yet I’m suggesting we take a look at precisely those things about life that provoke complaint.

How true. We end up dealing with what is, too often, the most simplest ways in order to deal with personal problems because we refuse to have the potential of being hurt.

Dr. Crabb writes,

Even a glance in the direction of discouragement and fear violates our idea of what a victorious Christian should be doing. Many people have been trained in conservative churches and Christian families to deny that they hurt. … We all have a tendency to keep safely distant from each other’s feelings. To deal with what’s really going on inside is disturbing, too uncomfortable; so we hide the inside truth from others–from ourselves. (pg. 98)

He goes onto say,

A focus on the heartaches of life can be grim business, leaving us cynical, depressed, and unmotivated. That’s a clear danger of an inside look. (page 98)

Feeling like you don’t want to go on reading this so far depressing truth? By far, this was the toughest book for me to personally read as he writes,

And pain disrupts life. It can rob us of sleep; it sometimes triggers harsh responses from people we love; it tends to drive us toward immediate relief and away from responsibility. When I feel bad I’m more tempted to watch television than to help my wife with housework. … Why, then, take a inside look? … If the only effect of becoming aware of our thirst is to heighten our misery, then it’s stupid and wrong to look inside. On the other hand, if an awareness of our thirst is the beginning of closer fellowship with God (at whose right hand are abundant pleasures), then it makes sense. It is worth whatever temporary pain is stirred up, no matter how untemporary or severe the pain might seem. (pages 98-99)

Through a series of personal disappointments throughout my whole life, I have found this to be true as 1 Peter 2:21 puts it,

For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you may walk in His steps. (ESV)

He closes the chapter saying,

Change from the inside out begins with an awareness of our thirst. (page 120)

For Jesus Christ says Himself that He is living water (John 4:1-26).

YouTube link to click on:

“Inside Out”-Bonray

“Turn My Eyes”-Bonray