“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“Though the path might be tough and the uncertainty excruciating at times, I trusted the Lord was in control and would use this for His greater good. I rested in the hope we can claim in Jesus. He would show us a way when there was no way.”-Jacqui Huxford

Click these links to here music about hope:

“Hope Changes Everything”-New Song

“Hope Right In Front Of Me”-Danny Gokey

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“Up to this point, the doctors and nurses had been taking care of him; now the burden would shift to my shoulder. Was I ready?”-Jacqui Huxford

Links to songs that express the lack of knowing completely what God will is:

“Trust In You”-Lauren Daigle

“Masterpiece”-Danny Gokey

“Inside Out: Part 4-Changing From The Inside Out|Chapter 12-What It Takes To Deeply Change” by Dr. Larry Crabb

Change. How do you fully accomplish holy change? (See the post King of Change located under May 2018) Well, True Life Christians won’t fully accomplish that until our physical bodies are no more. Our first step is accomplished here on earth, and that happens when you and I realize our need for a Holy Rescuer, Jesus Christ. However, it does not end there as we have to go through this physical life before we ever have to think about life outside of the physical.

Chapter 12 deals with that. On page 217, “Inside Out” starts off,

How far inside you have to look? Once we agree an inside look is necessary for deep change, we enter the mouth of a dark cave that tunnels off in endless, uncharted directions.

By this time, Dr. Larry Crabb expects that you are a Christian because none of the people in the whole earth would take on the mantra of “Blessing through Painful Change” as he writes in the 2nd-3rd paragraphs,

We could spend a lifetime exploring the winding caverns of our soul and never come out to see the sunlight. … Although an inside look can be overwhelming …, still there must be more to it than a journey into darkness. We are children of the light. Even in the midst of darkness, we know where we are headed. We have a lamp that always reveals the next step and a hope that keeps us moving … Christians are not characterized by joyless confusion and morbid despair… (pg. 217)

Remember the temptation of Jesus found in the gospels Matthew and Luke (Matthew 4:1-11; Luke 41-30)? Jesus Christ was led out into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit in order to be tempted by the devil. He endured many more temptations during His 40 day fast from the devil; however, these 3 were one of the toughest. Think about it. Even though you know how it’s going to turn out, Jesus must have taken a different look at it because now He was subject to the temptations through His physical body. Yet, no sin was committed by Jesus making 1 Peter 2:21 take on new meaning-

For this, you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you may walk in His steps. (ESV)

But something has gone wrong with this plan. When Paul sets out to demonstrate our need for the gospel, he describes people as so determined to their own design that God has given them over to themselves (Romans 1:24, 26, 28). Three times, he reports, God gave them over to the inevitable consequences of insisting that they figure out life on their own. (page 225)

People say, “I want to see proof.”. Well, on page 231, Dr. Larry Crabb states:

When Tony came to Christ, there was a definite change. He felt less antagonism toward his home life and made concerted efforts to treat his parents more kindly. Sensing a real desire to know more about the Bible and to serve God, he switched to a Christian college and soon he decided to some kind of full-time ministry.

When Tony came to Christ, there was a definite change. … (page 231)

To close out the chapter, Dr. Larry Crabb says,

Two weeks after that discussion, I saw Tony. He walked up to me, put his hand on my shoulder, and said, “… My time in Scripture has recently focused on the strength of Christ in my weakness and on the role of suffering in making me more like our Lord. I am trembling a little, but I’m really looking forward to what God wants to do with me. It’s exciting. I’ve never felt more alive.” (pg. 234)

That’s faith in Jesus Christ in action. But not to many of us have that kind of faith. “The more sure you are for something to happen the more confident you are,” we think. However, that is not the case with the followers of Jesus. He seems to do the opposite, making His followers trust Him more by staying close to Him.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (Hebrews 11:1, KJV)


Click on these links to hear songs about faith:

“Walk By Faith”-Jeremy Camp

“Give Me Faith”-Elevation Worship

“Trust In You”-Lauren Daigle

“What Faith Can Do”-Kutless

“Finding Normal: An Uninited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“The next day the doctor came in to ask me what my decision was, and I told him I had decided to take Jeff home. He bean trying to talk me out of doing that, and Jeff walked into the room. The doctor began talking to him and saw how Jeff had seemingly changed overnight. … It was as if Jesus had flipped a switch that gave Jeff enough boost in his recovery that we no longer needed a long-term facility. God is so GOOD; He is so good to us!”-Jacqui Huxford

Click on links to hear songs about how God is good to us through His .miraculous power:

“God Is Good”-Don Moen

“He Still Does (Miracles)”-Hawk Nelson

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“His doctor gave me the option of bringing Jeff home to his recovery process there, which many before me have tried and ended up wearing themselves out, or having Jeff go to a long-term facility indefinitely. They recommended the latter…”-Jacqui Huxford

Click links in order to hear music about decisions:

“Life Saving Decision”-God’s Love Song

“The Valley Of Decision”-(unknown)

“Inside Out: Part 4 Changing From The Inside Out|Chapter 11-The Power Of The Gospel

Is it really possible to change? Can a woman molested as a child really learn to embrace her sexuality? Do men with homosexual urges really become heterosexual? Can people who worry too much about money or their kids, or a couple whose marriage is no more exciting than at television rerun, or people with bad tempers really change? … The word really is the issue. In many people’s minds, change must be nearly complete-at least dramatic- or it doesn’t count. (pg. 202)

This is so true. Just take a look at the American media. In recent school shootings, the media pushing to make it illegal to carry any firearms where children could congregate, especially at school. They try to get you to believe that laws are going to do the trick, but the last I knew, criminals aren’t concerned about laws. For all law abiding citizens of the United States of America and its territories, you were appalled by children at schools now have numbers on their backs for the next mass-crazed school shooting. It comes down to either you want laws prohibiting assault weapons at school (which the American media is pushing on us), or you stand with the National Rifle Association (NRA) and stand on your own with some kind of pistol, shotgun, or assault weapon in hand. We have got to smarten up and let God handle it.

Under Dealing With Obvious Sin (Sin In Our Behavior) on page 209, Dr. Larry Crabb writes this,

We must do better than that. Change from the inside out requires more than that:

  • dealing with problems in our world by praying and trying to respond Biblically;

  • handling pain in our heart by comforting truth, and

  • responding to sin in our behavior by determining to resist temptation.

On the bottom of page 211, under “Return To The Lord Your God,” returning to Dr. Crabb puts additional words of wisdom by referencing one of my favorite verses:

The key to change is returning to God. Christ defined eternal life as knowing God (John 17:3). (pg. 211)

Click the links provided:


“Inside Out”-Bonray

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“My brother and brother-in-law started a group called TJIJA. It stood for ‘Till Jeff Is Jeff Again.’ A group of men from our church and hometown, along with some of Jeff’s friends, chose not to shave until Jeff came home from the hospital. Each time they would itch or really want to shave, they would pray for Jeff’s recovery. When Jeff heard about this group, he wept. God was using our circumstances to grow not only our faith in Him but also grow others’ faith as well.”-Jacqui Huxford

Click on links to find songs about faith:

“Walk By Faith”-Jeremy Camp

“Give Me Faith”-Elevation Worship

“By Faith”-Keith & Krysten Getty

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“One day, while changing his diaper, I felt such sorrow in that moment. I knew it would mortify him to know that what was happening if he were in his right mind. I couldn’t help but ask myself, ‘Is this what the rest of our lives are going to be like?'”-Jacqui Huxford

Click on these links to help you understand about how helpless a person feels:

“Even If”-MercyMe

“Even If”-Kutless

“Inside Out: Part 4-Changing From The Inside Out|Chapter 10-Defining The Problem

At the beginning of this chapter, Dr. Crabb writes,

In our efforts to change, no question is more important than the obvious one: What exactly is wrong? What is going on in us that leads to depression, worry, sexual perversion, hostility, and a host of other concerns that plague us? Is there something in our own deceitful heart that a sincere commitment to follow Christ and renewed determination to live as we should simply do not reach? Do most counseling efforts miss a central problem that must be corrected if change from the inside out is to occur? (pg. 185)

He goes on to write,

Problems are everywhere… Sometimes the reality of human suffering seems just to much. Everyone has his or her story to tell… (pg. 185)

Under Facing Our Sin on page 187-188, he has additional words of wisdomwhen he writes this-

As we try to understand the process of change, we must realize that deep change comes about less because of what we try to do and how hard we try to do it, and more because of our willingness to face realities of our internal life. Personal integrity, a commitment to never pretend about anything, is a prerequisite for change from the inside out.

Do you feel the words piercing right through you as do I? For Jesus Christ, in John 17:1-26, prays to God the Father and for all believers to protect us from the evil one (John 17:15, NIV). That is why one of my favorite verses comes from a man who denied knowing Jesus not once, not twice, but three times in a span of just a few hours; it is 1 Peter 2:21 which says,

For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you may walk in His steps. (ESV)

As I have said before, think about it and act.

Click on these links:


“Change”-Hard AZ Nails

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“I would have flashbacks to when moments and memories when he was home, normal, himself. I longed for those days and, at times, had to remind myself that I don’t get to wake up from this nightmare. This our new reality. I must trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding.”-Jacqui Huxford

These links will bring you YouTube songs:


“My Version of Romans 8 28 In Song”

“Romans 828 LYRIC VIDEO”

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected Outcome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

“I sorted through his personal items they had sent home with me: cut-off underwear and shorts, hid wedding ring, his socks and shoes, nail clippers, lip balm, and a pocket knife. I sobbed as I allowed gravity of what had happened hit me like a ton if bricks. I had never felt so alone in all my life. Yet I knew that God heard my cries. I knew he would never leave me or forsake me. I knew he was working. Those comforts are what finally allowed me to sleep. I know God is working even when we perceive that he is silent. He is with us, comforting us, working in our lives, and working all things together for the good of those who are in Christ Jesus.”-Jacqui Huxford

Click on links to hear music:

“Work It Out”-Tye Tribbett

“God Will Make A Way”-Don Moen

The word “Free” doesn’t mean that it was free to the one offering it…

Free.” We all like the word “free.” such as the “free” knife set that you get from a purchase that you have made or for a subscription to a culinary magazine. Personally, I’ve seen “free” chairs, couches, gym set on the side of the road outside of someone’s driveway. Or you have your typical yard sale in which at the end of it you start offering stuff for free. I get that especially in America where you are in a time of “need” for a very short time only to be replaced by “needing” something more in this technological age we Americans find ourselves in.

For, typically getting something nee but quickly becomes old means that someone has got tired of using it so they offer whatever “it” is. You just want it out of your personal possession so you offer it up for “free” so we can make room for the “new” stuff even though it may cost you a small fortune when you originally. I, by far, have fallen into this trap like a slippery slope.

Yet, Jesus Christ offers you the gift of protection from eternal death financially free! Oh yes, it’s FREE!! 🤗🤗🤗 (John 3:16; 17:3) And although it’s financially free, to truly live to walk in His steps (1 Peter 2:21), it is going to cost you something. You may lose family members and friends. Depending on how hard of a stand you make, you may be ridiculed; you be alienated by some people, or you know that feeling you get when your core beliefs differ than of people in your sphere of influence.

Even Christians can be somewhat of a negative influence. With the Christian faith being broken up by Catholicism and Protestantism. Under Catholicism, you have the two biggest ones-Catholicism and Roman Catholicism. Under Protestantism, you have too many denominations to be counted. But I digress…

This article was supposed to be talking about the subject of free. And to be worth any value, the prize has to cost the owner much more. It is like the American military offering freedom for free. Some of us can’t, won’t, even refuse the idea of serving in the military, though the people in it have to fight in order to maintain our freedom. Jesus Christ, who died for the sins of the world, offers you such freedom if you would only accept Him and walk as Jesus would have you walk. Jesus has even provided Himself as an example (1 Peter 2:21).

Think about it and act!

Click on these links below!

“Free Indeed”-Timothy Reddick

“I Am Free”-Newsboys (with Peter Furler)

“Freedom Hymn”-Austin French

“Inside Out: Part 3-Digging Broken Wells|Chapter 9-Exposing Wrong Directions” by Dr. Larry Crabb

On page 163, he begins the chapter off by writing,

Doing good things does not automatically turn us into good people. Spending hours in Bible study, witnessing regularly, avoiding worldly amusements, and generously giving time and money to the Lord’s work are godly things to do, but they are not sufficient in themselves to produce deep change.

Dr. Crabb goes onto say that

Exposure is no easy matter. The deceitful character of our heart helps us believe that things are quite a bit better than they really are. No matter how sincerely we want to identify the wrongs in our life, we still have a hard time seeing the subtle way a demanding spirit infects our style of relating. (pg. 163)

OUCH!! That hurts. Under the heading of SEEING OURSELF CLEARLY, Larry Crabb writes

We must learn to evaluate the things we do and say as we interact with people to see where the disease of demandingness has spread. … The sole value of an inside look is measured by its helpfulness in moving us toward greater love, both for God and for others. (pg. 165)

This comes after he writes,

In speaking to the Pharisees, Christ ruthlessly exposed the sinfulness clothed in their fine speech when He said, “How can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks … But I tell you that men will have to give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words, you will be condemned” (Mathew 12:34, 36-37).

The point is clear: If we are to love genuinely, we must first pull up the evil root of self-protection in our sinful heart: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23). (pgs. 164-5)

Instead, we must work hard at being a Christian, for

The Bible is not a vending machine that reliably yields the product we request. (pg. 174)

The God that I worship requires something more than that. He requires that humans will be like His Son according to 1 Peter 2:21. That is the heart of God which is to be like His Son who is already in heaven waiting for the proper time from God the Father to rapture His church.

Click on the links to find music to go along with this:

“Inside Out”-Bonray

“Beautifully Broken”-Plumb

“Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change, An Unexpected OutCome” by Jeff Huxford, M.D.

” I couldn’t believe how quickly life had changed. In one day we went from being the family who had it all to sit in a hospital wondering if we were about to lose Jeff.”-Jacqui Huxford

Please click on these links:

“Blessings”-Laura’s Story

“Lose This Life”-Michael Tait